How to Create the Life You Really Want!
Tips your Parents or Grandparents may not have given
you (but should have!) from a 90-year-old Veteran, Businessman, Husband, Father &
Fallbrook, CA — The ills our society faces are apparent; in the United States
domestic violence is a growth industry. Teen pregnancy stands at 53 to every 1000.
Financial distress and foreclosure are everyday news. These are not figures we would
have seen in past generations. One wonders if our elders knew something we have
forgotten or never knew.
Wilford D. (Wil) Gower, a retired U.S. Army Colonel and decorated veteran of WWII,
is truly a member of the Greatest Generation. At 90, Wil has the kind of wisdom
learned by experience, which he shares in his book
"Mapping Life's Tomorrows."
As Wil says, "you must take responsibility for your life — many people
have words of advice, but you must be the judge in making your decisions."
The following tips are some of his roadmaps to successful decision-making.
- There is a person out there like you who is looking for their ideal mate. For
marriage find someone who has the same kind of ambitions, life plans, and social
interests so that you will fit together for a lifetime of happiness.
- First enjoy your marriage, and then add offspring. Welcome an expected child into
a happy environment, then guide the child through their growth years with encouragement
and kindness. Help him arrive at life decisions using good judgment learned from your
- Continue to learn so that you rise above the crowd. Gower stresses education —
not necessarily college, but whatever learning tools you need to achieve your goals.
Things you learn on the job will help you grow. Gower also emphasizes it is your duty
to perform your assigned work to the best of your abilities; you will earn benefits
now and in the future.
- Evaluate each financial decision based on the cost and by what means you will cover
it. Part of that cost may be stress, not just money. Think before you leap! Rather
than using "plastic money" keep your financial commitments within your
ability to pay.
- When you plan for retirement, examine your health, your prospects for longer life,
and what resources you will need to enjoy it. If you are happy in your work, and it
is not creating a health problem, why not continue to work? And if you do retire make
plans to fill the 40 extra hours a week you will have available. You cannot just take
to the rocking chair!
- Part of living is being useful. Get involved in community services. Volunteer with
your church or a non-profit worthy of support. Add these accomplishments and achievements
which make your life that much more meaningful.
- Conduct your life with honesty, integrity, grace, love, humility, forgiveness,
fairness and thankfulness for your blessings. Regardless what form your beliefs take;
you must have respect for yourself and others.
As Gower tells us, "Use every day as a stop on the road to success and happiness.
We all learn from adversity, so cherish today, and you will succeed on life's various
About Wil Gower
Born a sharecropper's son in Kentucky, Gower worked his way through college during
the depression years. As a member of a large family, a decorated combat veteran of
WWII and a manager in industry, Gower has mapped and executed a full life for himself
and others, while also writing for 3 newspapers and taking professional photographs.
The San Diego County Board of Supervisors has introduced Gower as the "Legend of
Fallbrook," due to his community service, received the Pinnacle Award from the
Fallbrook, CA, Chamber, and had a Chamber of Commerce building named for him!
His successful book, "Mapping Life's Tomorrows",
as well as his 2006 work, "Lessons: To Be Happy and Successful," are available
through Publish America.